Hosting tips : create your own community space

 Make sure there are games/picture books in every sitting situation.

Make sure there is appropriate lighting for every standing/gathering spot (candle trays, lamps, string lights).

Post the emergency protocol (hose locations, fire extinguisher locations, phone numbers, etc). Leaving a public highlight is conviene and accessible.

Water station is visible.

The more speakers and Bluetooth things the better. 

Expect things to be broken/stained/lost: pocketed (when 3rd parties get involved.

If there are valuables you’d rather not lose HIDE/LOCK them!!

Leave written notes for small details to avoid mishaps IE “hold lever down until fully flushed” or “carefully close door” or “shoes kept on/off”. I often have pet rats free roaming in my room so I leave a visible note in eyesight of the door knob. 

Post party details at least 1 month in advance, and every week post a reminder.

To make new guests feel more invited and comfortable, mention the option to bring a plus one.

Spotify group playlist is always a good idea, less fighting over aux.

Have a designated place for jackets, purses, phone chargers. 

Have a designated safe, quiet space for anyone that needs a break from the party. 

AS A GUEST:

Actively practice your manners and etiquette. It is a privilege to be invited into someone’s home or space. Practice the Golden Rule.

Wouldn’t you appreciate it if people gave you a direct heads up on their attendance? 

Wouldn’t you hope people will offer help setting up, bringing ice or cutlery?

Wouldn’t you hope your guest can read the “party is over” cues such as a switch to slow, relaxing music, cleaning up the space, dimming of the lights and such?

Wouldn’t you hope to never spot a cigarette butt somewhere its not supposed to be? But as a host make sure you have ash trays located in varying spots!!!

We deprive ourselves of beautiful moments of meeting people when we don’t practice the awareness and consideration it takes on both ends for healthy human connection to occur. The hospitality and generosity of the host needs to exist, and at the same time, reciprocation of effort from the guest.